Radhika shares her proposal story to husband Benedict. (Source: Instagram/@radhikaofficial)
Many dream of elaborate proposals to start their happily ever afters, but for some, life throws a big fat wrench in their plans. In Radhika Apte’s case, logistical troubles at the passport office pushed the couple to the altar sooner than they planned. Speaking to Mashable India, the Saali Mohabbat actor shared how she popped the question to her now husband, Benedict Taylor, in an effort to secure a visa. “The marriage between me and Benedict, there was a problem in my passport office, with the visa application. We were trying so hard so we get to work. I went home and said, ‘I’m done, will you marry me? And he said, yeah sure, let’s do it.’ We did it very quickly for this thing.”
In a 2022 interview with India Today, the actor had recalled, “When I got married to Benedict 10 years ago, we forgot to click pictures. We had a DIY marriage. We called our friends, made food ourselves, had the wedding at a place in Northern England, and partied. But no pictures. Even though half of our friends were photographers, none of them clicked any pictures. We were all so drunk. So I don’t have any pictures of my wedding. Which is nice in a different way.”
Radhika and husband Benedict with their daughter. (Source: Instagram/@radhikaofficial)
The idea of marrying your partner can be overwhelming and exciting, and the realisation can be heavy on the person, too. If you’re planning to propose, inspirational speaker and columnist Devina Kaur shared some key tips to keep in mind so you’re both on the same page and ready to accept each other as your life partners.
While planning the proposal, it is essential to know that not everything will go exactly as planned. “Making an uninformed decision and pushing them out in public can make them embarrassed and uncomfortable. Mention in passing, the idea of getting engaged so that your partner is ready,” she said.
No matter what the answer is, don’t let this ruin your confidence. What matters the most is your love and passion for each other. When you finally go down on one knee (or not), your goal must be to make them feel special and loved in the moment and the future.
“Now, if they say ‘yes’, it is advisable not jump into breaking the news to the world. Memorise the moment so you can revisit it later. Spend time with your partner and learn about every detail of the evening. Marriage is a big change, and you need to relish every tiny moment of happiness to make it a successful one,” said Kaur.
According to Kaur, impatience is typical when we decide to propose. “The eagerness can be healthy, but to plan a ‘perfect’ proposal, you can ask for help from your friends and family. They can provide an insight into the proposal that you weren’t thinking about before, and help you capture the moment on camera,” she said.
Before and after popping the question, be mindful of your partner’s comfort. “Even after a romantic gesture, we can get overwhelmed in public, and that ruins the moment. To avoid it, make sure that your partner is comfortable and feeling loved,” Kaur suggested.