Sunita Ahuja speaks out amid affair rumours involving Govinda, reflecting on trust, boundaries, and what she believes should matter most in a marriage. (Source: Express Archives)
In a recent interview, Sunita Ahuja spoke candidly about her personal life, saying that 2025 has been “a very bad year” for her owing to the ongoing controversy around her husband, Govinda and another woman. Addressing rumours head-on, Sunita clarified that the woman in question is not an actress and questioned the intent behind the relationship. “I treat 2025 as a very bad year for me because I’ve been hearing about Govinda’s controversy that he is having an affair with a girl, but I know that she’s not an actress because actresses don’t do such bad things. She doesn’t love him; she only wants his money,” she told ETimes. She also made a broader statement about marital boundaries, adding that “no one has a right to keep the fourth woman in their life.”
Sunita also articulated what she believes should matter most in a man’s life, stating that she hopes Govinda realises that the most important things in his life are his mother, his wife, and his daughter.
Sonal Khangarot, licensed rehabilitation counsellor and psychotherapist, The Answer Room, tells indianexpress.com, “An affair is an affair irrespective of intent, but psychologically, the motivation behind it does influence how it affects a marriage and the repair process.”
Affairs driven by money or opportunism are usually transactional in nature. Khangarot explains that they are often linked to entitlement, power dynamics, thrill-seeking, or poor impulse control rather than emotional dissatisfaction with the partner. While the betrayed spouse may initially feel “less replaced,” the damage lies in the erosion of trust, values, and respect. Such affairs raise concerns about character, judgment, and future reliability in the relationship.
“Affairs driven by emotional attachment tend to be more destabilising for marriages. They usually emerge from emotional neglect, loneliness, or unmet attachment needs. The betrayal feels deeper because emotional exclusivity is broken, triggering fears of abandonment and replacement. The partner may grieve not just the loss of trust but the loss of emotional safety,” stresses Khangarot.
Psychologically, she says, both types result in betrayal trauma, anxiety, and hypervigilance. The intent does not lessen the injury. Recovery depends on accountability, emotional attunement, and sustained effort to rebuild trust.
Clearly defined emotional and relational boundaries are one of the most essential elements of long-term partnerships because they form the psychological foundation of the relationship.
According to Khangarot, boundaries create safety, clarity, and predictability, allowing partners to feel secure without constantly questioning their place or value. When boundaries are respected, individuals can stay emotionally open while maintaining a sense of self. When they are crossed, it often leads to confusion, anxiety, resentment, and erosion of trust.
“Psychologically, boundary violations trigger attachment insecurity and hypervigilance, making partners feel unsafe or replaceable. Over time, this weakens emotional intimacy and destabilises the relationship, even if the bond otherwise appears functional,” concludes Khangarot.
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